Living My Best* Life

*Authentic. None of that “Think Positive” BS

A collection of thoughts, stories, and poems from my own self-discovery journey.

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A Conversation with Some Body

I want to have a conversation with youWell, my body —My body really wants to have a conversation with youIt’s just got so much to sayAnd so much it wants to hear from your body, too.

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A Story About Jon, My Maintenance Guy Who Just Died

The maintenance guy for my apartment died a few weeks ago. I don’t think I’m supposed to be sad. You’re allowed to grieve over losing a family member, a friend, or someone you worked closely with. Jonathan was just this guy I knew, and I didn't even really know him.

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When Your Ex’s Team is in the Super Bowl

When your ex’s team is in the super bowl, who do you root for? It can seem like there's no winning, no right answer. But after going to a friend's family party to watch the game, it all becomes clear to me.

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Homecoming

If home is a house
A yard for the dogs to play
For the chickens to roam
For the cats to explore and lie in the sun

If that's what a home is
My friends
Then I'm homeless.

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A Letter For Luca

Hey Lou,

I’m so sorry this year has been so rough on you.

It breaks my heart seeing you in pain. I know you just want to play and chase squirrels, and I’m the downer that’s always holding you back.

Heck, even on 3 legs and you’re still ready to go, go, go. So we’re going to go on this journey together, to get you back to being you. But I have to warn you, it’s going to suck for a bit, first.

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A not-so-everyday story of a white girl pulled over by police

I was pulled over by police the other day

Even though I'm a white girl, I was nervous and even stuttered a bit

I noticed myself consciously putting my keys on the dash and keeping my hands glued to the steering wheel

Even though it didn’t feel like I had to.

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You and Me Both, Kiddo.

You and me both, kiddo. We're just here learning how to grow up.

Taking first steps can be scary. Crawling around on the ground is a lot more comfortable.

As soon as you start walking towards something, you realize all you're leaving behind. You don't know what's ahead. You don't know who you'll be when you get there.

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A Different Approach to Gratitude

Pay attention to what people say they’re grateful for.

Listen as they recite off their gratitude lists, the ones we’re all encouraged to think about this time of year.

The thing is, out of all those physical and non-physical things mentioned, you won’t hear much that makes the list that’s not something that a person has.

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Thoughts on Finding the Right Book to Read

Find a book you can’t help but dive into. 

One that you want to read, but yet, some part of you also doesn’t, because you don’t want it to end.

One that makes you want to find all the 3-minute gaps of blank space in your day so you can get through one more page.

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Thoughts on Not Having Done Your Best Work Yet

There are plenty of reasons to hold back from taking positive action.

And one of those reasons can be the fear that the idea that you have is a real winner. It’s actually a dangerous thought. Because then you hold on too tightly. You don’t let it out there for the world because it’s not ready. It’s not perfect yet. It has too much potential and you don’t want to squander it.

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Why Procrastination is Never the Real Problem

Procrastination’s got a bum rap. It has got to be one of the most overused yet misunderstood excuses there is.

Almost anytime someone’s not doing what they “should” be doing, we blame it on procrastination.

Most of the time there’s an underlying reason, or series of reasons, why one would procrastinate.

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The Mess That Comes With Dogs

There’s something to be said for owning a dog.

People first think of companionship, loyalty, man’s best friend. But they don’t realize the other ways owning a dog changes your life.

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A Woman’s Journey Fending Off Dementia

You should see the fear in her eyes when she talks about it. That prayer that she’s been saying for years – the other day she forgot how it started. “What were those first few words?”

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A Heavy Glimpse into an Ordinary Day of Nurses

She was breathing just an hour ago. We wrote her goals for the day on the whiteboard: Pain management, make as comfortable as possible.

We knew she was going through some post-surgery challenges, but we didn’t realize it’d be the last day she’d ever have goals on the board.

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Bicyclist Killed in a Carjacking Hit and Run

A 28-year old bicyclist was killed yesterday, right down the road near the neighborhood ice cream shop.

The guy who hit him was driving a car he’d just carjacked which had a two-year-old in the back seat. He was running from police, going at least 90 mph.

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Why Writers Love Blank Pages

There’s something special about that blank page. Something “perfect,” as Neil Gaiman explains.

It’s far less stressful than a full page. They don’t bring about those random thoughts in the shower or right before falling asleep of the one thing you forgot to say.

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Gatekeepers: How to Get Stuff Done

There can be a flood of great ideas: concepts that will change the world forever. But if those gatekeepers are strong and stubborn enough, it becomes difficult for those ideas to ever come to fruition. Unless, of course, the holders of the ideas are more committed and dedicated to their jailbreak than the gatekeepers holding them in.

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What if You Knew You Wouldn't Live Past 30?

Fatima Ali died yesterday, at age 29. She was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer right after appearing on Top Chef, which was looking to be a high point in her life. Only a few months after an initial treatment when things were looking up again, she got news that the chemo didn’t work, the cancer had metastasized, and she had a year to live.

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